Contemporary culture, media and all variety of manuals a la “how to be successful” promote image of an open and super-sociable personality. Institutions, schools and working places are mostly designed for extraverts’ needs. “You are not fond of teamwork? Goodbye then!” This topic is quite biased, although there’re a lot of introverts in this world, especially in such fields as science, IT, art, design, music, and literature.
One of the main differences between extraverts and introverts is the way they get energy. Extraverts need stimuli (including social) from outside and get charged from others. That’s why they need a lot of connections and interactions with other people to feel good.
Introverts produce their energy themselves, and instead of getting it from others, they give it (or even loose) communicating with people. This means they find most social interactions tiring and need time to get recharged afterwards. Introverts are the most alive, switched on and capable on their own in a quiet environment. They do need their cocoon of personal space.
Introverts do feel good in solitude. There are always a lot of things ongoing in their inner worlds. But being an introvert doesn’t mean not liking to have company. Social contacts are just costly to them, so, not to waste the energy, they are must be selective. Communication with a “wrong” person requires an effort from them.
Sometimes introverts also feel lonely.
Introversion and shyness are different things. Introverts are not scared of people but they need a reason to communicate. They don’t communicate just for communication’s sake. They like socializing, but not for a long time.
This is not true that introverts don’t like talking. They just don’t talk when they have nothing to say. And they don’t like a small talk. When it comes to interesting for them topics, it might be hard to stop them. Don’t consider silence as offence.
Introverts don’t like social ceremonies and courtesy exchanges. They prefer natural and honest communication. Unfortunately, it’s not always possible. So, adjusting to social environment (such as corporate culture, for instance) can often be painful and tiring for them.
Sometimes introverts pretend to be extraverts.
Introverts don’t like crowds and big gatherings. They are also not those who build wide networks of friends and acquaintances, but need just a few deep and genuine connections. If they get close with someone, they do value this communication, are very devoted and faithful.
“I’m sorry, I have to go now. There’s no one at home – I cannot miss it.”