By Louise Hay & Robert Holden

Some people say yes to too many things – we all do. Being a “yes person” is something rewarded in our society – and yes, it is important to be a team player and share your gifts. Although, too often we don’t know where to draw the line, and we soon find that our own health and well-being has been compromised.

Is this a challenge you face in your own life?

The truth is: 

“…until you know what you really want to say yes to, you will continue to say yes to everything else.” – Robert Holden

Not knowing what you want can cause you to experience inner doubt, to be torn between contradictory goals, to get distracted and scattered, to feel compromised, to be exhausted, to get into unhealthy sacrifice.

Ultimately, the end result of this cycle is that you give your power away.

Find Your Inner Truth With an Affirmation Board

So how can you get clear on what you want? How do you find your inner truth and reclaim your power? Here is a practice called Affirmation Board.

An affirmation board is a self-portrait. It’s a presentation of everything your entire being says yes to. The form of your affirmation board is entirely up to you, but here are some suggestions to get you started. Select a medium you are comfortable working with.

Idea 1: Make a Collage

You can do a collage of hand-drawn images, or pictures cut out of magazines or printed off the Internet. If you want to travel more, find pictures of the location you have always wanted to visit. If you want to take care of your body more, find images of athletes and appetizing healthy food.

As you lay out your collage, be honest with yourself: what do you really want?

Idea 2: Make a List

You might prefer to do a written list. Write down everything that you love, that makes you happy, or something that you want to bring into your life.

Often people’s first attempts at creating an affirmation board focus on having and getting. We encourage you to make sure your Sacred Yesses are more than just a shopping list. You might include developing a quality like courage, gratitude, or forgiveness, for instance. Maybe you want to practice a skill like meditation, yoga, painting, or cooking.

Idea 3: Create a Mind Map

Maybe you’d like to do a mind map. There are good examples of mind maps on Pinterest that you can browse for ideas.

Ask yourself, “What do I want to learn?” and “What do I want to experience?” Include your favorite affirmation or a personal mantra, for instance.

Whatever you do, keep it to one page.

What Are Your Sacred Yesses?

You create your affirmation board by listening within. You are listening for your Sacred Yesses. These Sacred Yesses belong to you. They’re not your parents’ yesses or your partner’s, your children’s, or anybody else’s. They‘re not about what you should do with your life; they are about following your joy.

They affirm what you love, what you believe in, and what you cherish and value. They are about you living your truth. Find your Sacred Yesses, and you find your inner truth.

The key is to express yourself, heart and soul. To focus on being rather than doing.

Give your affirmation board plenty of time. Express yourself. Be creative. Feel free to experiment. It’s not about getting it right. And it’s not about creating something that looks good.

If you want, you can share your board with someone you trust. It’s good to get feedback. Maybe they will point out something that you’ve missed. Finally, make sure that your affirmation board is about what you say yes to today—right now—not someday in the future. Remember, this isn’t about chasing happiness—it is about following your joy.

As you get clearer about the Sacred Yesses of your life, you experience a sense of empowerment helps you to live to the fullest.

For more information visit Louise Hay’s website: